How to Let it Go and Shift Your Focus?

by Andrea
(RLLoA moderator)

People often ask me what to do when something comes up that throws them out of the vortex, or causes them to be upset, down, frustrated, or pessimistic -- what to do when some situation in life comes up and gives you a little slap? How do you Let it GO?

We all have those moments when it feels like life has just given us a swift kick in the back-side, or even if it is just a little bolt of uneasiness and worry over some news, or someone else's bad mood, or upon learning about something sad or unwanted. For me, I can sometimes get caught up in the "bad news du jour", and get really upset about whatever I think "they" should be (or shouldn't be) doing!

I can feel it when it is happening, but I also can't quite stop doing it -- I call it having a "finger stuck in the light socket" moment, because, just as electricity will continue to surge and suck you in once a connection with it is made, so will negative energy. And, even though we all know it is not helpful to get caught up in negativity, sometimes it is very challenging to let it go and shift out of it.

The thing is, you can't just "let something go" because if you try not to think about it, you are still thinking about it. So, the only thing you can do is to shift your focus onto something else INSTEAD!

Here is what I do when it happens to me:

  • As soon as I notice it happening, I consciously stop, and I ask myself:
    "Is this something I want in my emotional grid?"
    And, if it is not something that I want to be manifesting MORE of, I shift my thoughts onto something different (ANYthing different) as soon as possible.

  • I start with the basics, that my life, health, and family are all well and functioning properly, that I have the use of my body, my faculties, and my mind, that I have a roof over my head, and all (most) of my needs are met, and exceeded.  (...Or, if these things aren't true, it is natural to be upset -- don't try to fight it!)

    For more on this idea specifically, see this Real Life LoA page: What can make me feel better when I am so disappointed?

  • I remind myself that ALL IS WELL, and that, at it's core, the Universe is in a complete state of harmony and well-being.  When it appears otherwise, it is merely in the process of working itself out to be even better than I could have imagined.

  • I remember that God/the Universe only has 3 answers in regard to ANY question:
    1. Yes.
    2. Yes, but not just yet.
    3. I have something even better on the way!

  • I try to think of ways that the situation could end up being even better, bigger, stronger, more beautiful, elegant, or good for me than I originally thought, hoped, (or feared.)  How might it turn around and end up facilitating an even better thing in the end?

What are some of the ways you have been able to successfully "let it go" and shift your focus onto something uplifting? Please share, the more ideas the better!

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Jul 11, 2012
really helpful suggestions
by: earl leland west

This is -i find- a very helpful peice in that all of it is so practical -- I love suggestion(s) that offer (this seems almost aphoristic) well... a working "technology" in effect that can utilize and -indeed- "pivot" or "flip-switch" in a given moment to actually change one's energetic radiation or vibration/feeling. Thank you!! Good article.

Jul 17, 2012
by: Dave


Jul 20, 2012
Thank YOU!
by: Andrea, RLLoA moderator

Thank you Earl, and Dave, for taking the time to comment; I am so grateful and appreciative for the feedback, and am thrilled that you found it of value. Thank you so much!

Mar 05, 2013
Really Powerful!
by: Anonymous

It's really helpful for any one. It removes lines of worries from my forehead.

Nov 21, 2013
This is what I needed!
by: Lynne

Hi Andrea,
Thank you for writing this! I only yesterday experienced a setback that brought up a lot of sadness and old ways of thinking. When it came into my life, it really felt like the gift I've been waiting for, so with the abrupt end of it yesterday, I felt very foolish for whole-heartedly throwing myself into it. The most difficult part for me is that I don't quite understand why an experience like this was allowed into my life when I've been in such a good place... why would this happen?
I allowed myself to cry and try to get it out of my system, asked the universe for emotional support, and talked to my dearest friend, which all helped a great deal. Then I set to work. Some of it was initially up stream, seeing elements that would have become major issues once the rosey goggles came off. I reread a lot of your articles, and am in the process of making lists of appreciation.
I'm sure it'll take a couple days to work through everything, but I hope to get back to where I was before this setback, and I'm keeping in mind that (as you wrote) the universe has something better in store.
Any advice or recommendations on other ways I can work through this is appreciated.
Thank you!!!

Nov 21, 2013
I really hear you! Love, light & Blessings ahead...
by: Andrea, RLLoA moderator

Hi Lynne,

I'm sorry you've hit a rough patch, we all do, all the time (it's one of the necessary side effects of being a magnificent creator in an ever expanding Universe) but it still feels rotten for a little while, I'm sorry.

On the bright side, the very fact that you are feeling rotten is, in itself, an indicator to you that the WAY you are thinking about the situation (and/or about your own actions in it) is bogus, from the perspective of Source Energy. The way you are looking at it is currently wrong.

The situation came into your life FOR YOUR GROWTH AND EXPANSION -- it is there to help you to clarify what would be EVEN BETTER, and what you really, really, really want instead. It is also helping you to become even more practiced at maintaining your own vibrational equilibrium no matter what the outside world is showing you/doing around you.

That is the real key to it all -- knowing that the Universe is ALWAYS on your side, ALWAYS working on your behalf, and ALWAYS in the process of working it out in your favor no matter how dire it may look in the moment (and maintaining your own ability to shift your attention onto something else in the meantime!)

To that end, there are some additional suggestions in these two posts:

The questions may not come from the same place, but the answers should still be very supportive!

Nov 23, 2013
Thank you : )
by: Anonymous

I appreciate your reply! I was so caught up in the "woe-is-me" reaction that I didn't even realize that my perspective was all wrong. I'm still working on it, but am so much better than the other day, and getting better still. The links you posted also helped! Thank you again for your reply and the wonderful guidance!
:) lynne

Nov 24, 2013
Be gentle with yourself too!
by: Andrea, RLLoA moderator

Hi Lynne (and anyone else who may be reading this thread),

I'm glad the reply helped, but I was thinking more about it today, and I think that when I said (above) that the way you were thinking about it was wrong, that was too harsh a word. A better word for it would be inaccurate. The word "wrong" implies you are doing something bad, or are making a mistake, when there really is no such thing as a mistake -- everything is an opportunity to grow into something more wonderful.

Most importantly, you should never be hard on yourself, or berate yourself for jumping 100% into a new situation, especially one that seems promising. And, certainly, with the benefit of hindsight, you should never blame yourself or feel bad about getting involved in life. ...THAT is what life is FOR!

So, I wanted to add the advice to be gentle with yourself, love yourself, and acknowledge your phenomenal courage and beautiful willingness to experience life's banquet (even if it turned out that the delicacy your tried tasted really bad this time around!)

You are in the perfect place to be creating the most magnificent manifestation for yourself, and the situation you've been through may have been an absolutely necessary ingredient in the recipe. So, start with appreciating your own incredible wonderful-ness, as you practice remembering that all really is well, and working out for you!

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