Why am I attracting negative people and repelling the positive people I like?

Question: I've noticed that those who are the most positive and free tend to repel from me.

All the friends and teachers that I felt as soon as I realize: "I'll never have to feel negative again!" then poof they vanish due to circumstances beyond my control and get replaced with either no one or a person that's boring.

Real Life LoA Answer: Thanks for writing in to Real Life Law of Attraction with your desire to understand more about how the Law of Attraction is working in your life.

Here is the short answer:

Imagine that you are comprised of three parts:
1) A core,
2) a middle layer, and
3) an outer layer.
(...Sort of like how a Hostess "Ding-Dong" has the creamy center, the layer of chocolate cake, and then the whole thing has a hard outer chocolate candy shell.)

At your core is ALL of your true desires, your highest Inner Wisdom, and the part of you that does/wants to have the "in love" feeling for everyone and everything in your life. As a matter of fact, the core of who you really are IS pure love.

Now, imagine that your core is encased by a powerful magnet that is trying to attract everything that is similar to your core into your experience. It is trying to attract everything you like, everything that makes you happy; everything that you feel joyful, playful, content, peaceful and loving about TO you.

But, the outer layer of who you are (the candy shell) functions like a filter, and it either lets the magnet do it's job properly, or it reverses the polarity of the magnet which then causes the magnet to push away all the good stuff.

Your mood, and your feelings ABOUT the people and situations around you is what "flips the switch" in that filter:

  • When you are in a bad mood, or angry, or annoyed (or thinking that the people around you are boring) then "the filter" (your own outer shell) disrupts the magnet, reversing it's natural polarity, and causes it to "push away" things that you like.

  • When you are in a happy mood, when you are actively appreciating and joyful about the people and situations around you, then "the filter" (your outer shell) allows the magnet to function properly and lets more good things come to you.

Of course, this is just an analogy, you do not have a real magnet inside you, but this is how the Law of Attraction functions, and why it feels like it often does the exact opposite of what you want.

The key is to generate the "good mood" yourself FIRST, so your magnet can attract other people who are happy and positive, rather than hoping that the people you attract will put you into a good mood. That's the trick.

I intend to add to this explanation, and give a more complete answer here as soon as I can. (I make it a priority to answer questions in the order they were received, but I wanted to get this bit of information to you right away!)

Please feel free to add your comments below, and ask any additional questions or requests for more clarity in your comments, so the answers can continue to assist all people who are being supported by this discussion.

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Oct 17, 2011
This Abraham quote fits
by: Anonymous

"You are always living a reflection of whatever you are outputting. And so, if you get into a little pocket where a lot of people are being rude, it's probably because you are being rude-or because you have been aware of people being rude. Nothing ever happens to you that is not part of your vibration!"

--- Abraham

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