I'm stuck - Universal Laws of Attraction & Blocked Energy

(Ontario, Canada)

Question: I have been following the Universal Laws of Attraction for a while now. Things are pretty good in my life, I am happy most of the time (I think) and things are fine, nothing bad is happening, but I am not making much progress on my biggest dreams for my career and relationship. I just don't know how to move forward, I feel like something is blocking me and the Universal Laws of Attraction just keep giving me more of the same old, same old, same old sh## every day. I must do something different, but I don't know what. Do you have any ideas?

Real Life LoA Answer: I'm really moved by your question, it has sparked something big within me, I'm very glad you were inspired to write, thank you. I have been thinking about the answer to this question for the past few days, even before you asked it, because different examples from among my own family and friends (as well as my own life, and some things I've seen on TV lately) have all had a similar theme. Here is what is coming forward:

If you want to know what is blocking you, look at what YOU are blocking. What are your secrets, what are you hiding from others, what are you ashamed of, or embarrassed about in your life? What would you rather that other people not see, or know about you?

These are the things that have their hold on you, that have power over you, and that are sub-conscious (or unconscious) patterns that are simply running in the background of your life without question. And these are the things that are actually gaining more steam in the form of what you create for yourself through the Law of Attraction. It's because keeping the secret, and contorting your life to protect yourself from letting other people see, or know, that about you takes a tremendous amount of energy! And, anything that takes your energy and focus, even sub-consciously, IS re-creating itself over and over in your experience. ...The harder you work at "pushing it away" – the faster other experiences with similar vibrations and feelings are drawn to you.

A different area to check is the parts of your life where you are suppressing anger. Maybe you are trying to convince yourself that it isn't that bad, or maybe you feel it is wrong / not socially acceptable to be angry about it, or feel that you have no choice in the matter. But again, trying to push it down and keep it under wraps will almost always take more energy than gets devoted to appreciation. It's hard work to try to ignore anger, and because it is hard work, the Law of Attraction is getting a lot of signals to magnify that vibration, so it does. You end up getting more things to feel angry and resentful about (including the experience of NOT having your dreams fulfilled.)

Another clue could be: "What do you wish your life looked like; what kind of image of yourself or your life are you trying to project to the world?" This is not something you need to "own-up to," to anyone except yourself, but, the places of your life that you are wishing were different are the places where you are not currently appreciating yourself authentically. When you are not appreciating yourself, or your life, you are not in the vortex, not in the flow, not aligned with the truth of how Source Energy / your own Inner Being sees it, and you are not attracting what you DO want with the Law of Attraction.

And, your energy blocks are not necessarily about the thing you think it is about, in fact they very rarely are – if you are sad and upset that you do not yet have the relationship you desire, the block will almost never be about relationships. Rather, it will be about whatever else is "not right" in your life (besides the relationship) – your secret shames, your 'not completely accurate' projections, your embarrassing little secrets, the areas where you have suppressed anger, or those things that annoy you every day. ...That's where you need to look to find out what is blocking you, and consciously shift, change, or re-create a new truth (and a new focus) for yourself!

Basically, when you are really honest with yourself, what do you wish were different about your life? If you could wave a magic wand and change your existing reality to a "new and improved" version, what would you change? List them. Take out a piece of paper right now and make a list of all those little things that annoy and irritate you, that you want to keep hidden from yourself or others, that you don't want anyone else to know about, that you are angry and upset about – write them down! ...THOSE are the areas where you are holding yourself back from your dreams.

Now, pick one, and start to change it. That's it. That's all you have to do. Start to change one of those things for yourself.

And, while you are doing that, remind yourself that you are NOT the same person you were when that situation was first created. YOU have evolved, YOU are a different person now, YOU are ready to empower yourself to expand beyond that old situation now. I guarantee you are a different person now than you were then – you would not be reading this site if you weren't. You CAN do it!

When you empower yourself to either:

1) Start changing those parts of your life yourself right now, or
2) Start authentically appreciating them exactly the way they are, or
3) A combination of both options at the same time,

then you will be truly liberating yourself, and you WILL feel the difference! When you take this one tiny step of empowerment, at that moment you will be back in the flow and properly aligned with your life, and you will be vibrating more in tune with Source Energy and the Law of Attraction for the attraction and manifestation of your REAL dreams!

And the BEST part of this approach of is: By taking a step toward changing something that is within your control, you are instantaneously taking your mind OFF of any perceived failures in desires that haven't manifested YET, and empowering yourself with "solution thinking" – it doesn't matter what subject it is in. In fact, it is even better if what you start focusing on is NOT in the same area of life that houses your biggest desires right now. Solution thinking in one area of life, particularly when combined with the satisfaction of small successes and motion forward, is attracting solutions to every area of your life!

Blessings to you as you empower yourself to move forward on your magnificent journey. I invite, and encourage you (and all others who are reading this) to share any thoughts you have around the idea of taking control over the hidden blocks you have uncovered and shifted – I look forward to delighting in your success with you!

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Dec 30, 2012
Internal or external?
by: Sersh

I can't tell if whats blocking me is coming from within my own mind or from some other external force. I'm kinda leaning towards the latter, cos whenever I try to get help, I always seem to hesitate, question myself, doubt arises, my mind wants to engage in something nicer/fun, so I end up not receiving the help I NEED. I know its up to me to make connections with people in order for them to engage with me, but I've not achieved anywhere even close to the level of connections I require. My perception of people and reality is not stable and it fluctuates, but I'm willing to make a concerted effort to give them a chance. How can I tell if whats effecting me is actually coming from some external source. I have my suspicions about what goes on outside my window at night, or am I just paranoid/crazy?

Jan 09, 2013
I cant feel the block?
by: Anonymous

I had a go at writing down the things that annoy me and that's great. But one in particular that has killed me again and again for about 10 years is not being able to move forward because I can't feel what I love doing? what makes me happy? I love so many things, and get bored and put off so quickly. So I don't trust what I love. And feel like a failure who is unable to to move forward. I am so in the head I can't enjoy anything anymore. I tried doing workshops with kids but then I felt it wasn't spiritual enough so now I am thinking about working with older people ...I am thinking I must use my drawing skills to make money so I can get training but I am scared this will just take me down the wrong path. I'm trapped! I am fascinated in healing people. I have big wounds I have spent my life trying to heal, which I have to before healing, and this healing doesn't give me the energy or space to develop at the same time. ...I have found myself dedicating my life to healing, and all other parts of my life are messing up. And I will have to just get a job to keep me grounded but it makes me unhappy. Meanwhile I have a big ego that wants to heal, and can't stand being silent and still. So I end up getting involved in projects and workshops that are not quite connected, or what I want. This is stressful too. xx

Jan 26, 2013
Lost my faith
by: Kevin

I'm really happy reading this page as I was desperately looking for an answer the last 4 years. For many years i was using the law of attraction, by applying hypnosis and everything was great in my life. Four years ago though, I met this girl that i fell so much in love, but she left me at some point. I came to believe that i had attracted the wrong person and the law of attraction was responsible for that. I was so desperate to bring her back or to find another one just because i didn't want to feel the pain. I was making tremendous efforts by repeating all the techniques i knew at that time, hypnosis, positive affirmations but nothing seemed to work. I lost my faith, i was feeling so angry about the techniques that don't work, i couldn't feel any emotion for years until yesterday i realized how much angry i was with the universe, God, with anything that deprived me for having happiness in my life.
My fear that if the universe helped me to attract what i want after some point will throw to me misery. If i got the job i wanted, after a while, this magic will gone and i will stay all alone there humiliated. I so long for having love in my life again, love for myself, for all the people, happiness. I want to experience that feeling of connection with the universe again.

Feb 03, 2013
To Sersh, regarding internal or external blocks
by: Andrea, RLLoA moderator

Hi Sersh,

Your comment, asking about internal vs. external blocks is a good question, one that many people wonder about, but it also highlights a basic life philosophy that each person must decide for him or herself. And that is: Are you the creator of your own reality, with absolute free will, or is there some other force or power that exerts control over you?

The foundation of the Law of Attraction is that you are a sovereign being, a magnificent creator, with more power than you can even imagine, who is energetically manifesting your every experience based on the focus of your consciousness. As such, all blocks are internal.

The Law of Attraction is always calling you to follow your heart, and do something fun and joyful for you. So, when you feel that pull, that is mostly likely the best path to take (so long as the activity is truly joyful, and not escapism disguising itself as fun out of a (bad) habit.)

With regard to other people, it takes effort and practice on your part to focus your attention on their best qualities. This is something you can do with all situations actually -- look for the positive aspects of it, the qualities and aspects you DO like, and always think in terms of what IS good about it.

You are not crazy. The world we live in is complex, and there are thousands of competing ideas swirling around all the time. I'd like to invite you to consider starting a simple meditation practice, even for 3 minutes a day, and build-up slowly, over time, to 20 minutes a day. The important part is to do it every day, even if it is only for 3 minutes.

A regular meditation practice will help you to quiet your mind when you need to, and be able to feel more clearly what is calling to the heart of who you truly are.

Love and blessings to you!

Feb 03, 2013
Reply to "I Can't Feel the Block" comment
by: Andrea, RLLoA moderator

Wow, do I ever hear you, I feel exactly that way myself sometimes! I often can't feel what it feels like to know what I love, as if following the energy of joy is too lofty a goal, or too many/too few activities fall into that category, and I confuse myself. But, luckily, there are also some alternative ways to look at it which could help:

1) Follow your fascination in the moment, or, as Bashar would say, "follow your highest excitement." Then, when that changes, follow it again. Don't worry about aiming for love, joy, or bliss when trying to decide what to do, just go with your highest excitement at any given point, and let that lead you.

2) Try not to be distracted by what you have to do to make money, or by the idea of only making money by doing what you love. You do not have to love every minute of what you do, and you do not have to love what you do to make money to be moving forward.

I recently had a temporary job that was very rewarding, and that led to the fulfillment of some major dreams come true for me, but the job itself was really, really, really hard. While I was doing it, there was very little about it I even liked, much less loved, but I did it to honor a commitment, and because it started by following my highest excitement at the time. What you love is an attitude, and you can always create that attitude no matter what you are doing.

3) Take a vacation from doing things for other people, getting caught-up in other people's plans, and making commitments to anything but your own fun for a while. While you are at it, take a vacation from media, social media, and other people (as much as possible) for a while too! You will be amazed at how much more clarity you feel when you use that time to focus on nurturing yourself, meditating, and reading uplifting material.

You are not a failure. What you are experiencing is completely normal, especially for someone with so much creative energy as yourself. You are a magnificent being, who is bigger, brighter, and more powerful than you can possibly imagine right now.

Mar 17, 2013
Re: Losing Faith in Law of Attraction
by: Andrea, RLLoA moderator

Dear Kevin (and any others who may fear that you will attract more bad than good with the Law of Attraction.)

You, your soul, your dreams/desires, and your life are constantly expanding -- they are all trying to get bigger and better (whether you want them to, or not.)

When you fall in love with someone new, or get a new job, or something wonderful happens to you, it will only feel fantastic for a little while, while it is new. After that, you have to continue to find the positive aspects of it, and be deliberately appreciating what you DO enjoy about it, AND, it has to be able to grow WITH you.

The Universe is always trying to nudge you into more challenges, more excitement, more learning, more joy, and is encouraging you to be dreaming new ideas. That is why things start to not feel so good anymore when you get too comfortable (and stop growing.)

The key is to accept what is right now. Feel it, relax into it, roll with it, and accept it as is. Then, get right to work focusing on ANYTHING that is going well, anything that is good, nice, pleasant, hopeful, beautiful, joyful. Focus on what you DO like about what your reality is now, and that is what the Universe will magnify for you.

It doesn't happen by itself, you create your life by what you focus your attention on. You are creating the manifestations, so you have to focus MORE on what you intend to experience, and less on what you fear could happen.

Whenever you catch yourself focusing on pain, fear, or worry, train yourself to set an intention about what you DO WANT to experience instead.

For instance, if I am driving around and notice another driver doing something careless, and catch myself starting to worry about a possible auto accident, I immediately set a new intention for myself. I say out loud: "I intend to arrive safely, easily, and in pristine condition in every way." Then I work to focus on what I DO want (to enjoy my safe and easy journey).

Another suggestion would be to read the book Loving What Is by Byron Katie, and learn to not let the "reality" of your situation have power over you.

Blessings and best of luck to you!

Apr 09, 2013
Not able to visualize
by: Anonymous

It's been one year since I'm not able to visualize. I lost my job as I was made redundant and it was one of the best things that happened in my life. I felt that I was free to change my career or to move forward to chase higher positions and more money. I knew that that the Law of attraction would help me to achieve what I was desired. Apparently, not only I didn't achieve anything but I'm still here jobless after a year still unsure about what is it exactly I want to do. It may be confidence issue, I may be unsure whether I can go for higher positions or scared of changing my career. Even though I questioned myself many times about my blocks, I still got no answer. I see people around me achieving things and I'm thinking that it is not going to work for me as long as I have these blocks. My main problem is that I'm able to make an image-very weak though-and I can't feel any emotion in order to strengthen the image. Please advice me.

Jul 10, 2013
You do not need to be able to visualize
by: Andrea, RLLoA moderator

It is very, very common to not be able to mentally visualize something that has not happened yet, but the good news is that you do not need to!

You also do not need to know specifically what your blocks are, or how to clear them necessarily.

If you can get into an energetic space (in your body) such that you are feeling love, appreciation, gratitude, fascination, excitement, passion, joy, or even just peace and contentment -- focusing your mind and attention on what is RIGHT with the world, your life, and yourself, then you will automatically be attracting wonderful situations.

That's not to say that it doesn't also take action -- get busy doing something, anything that is interesting, fun and engaging for you. Give yourself over to being as happy and busy, busy and happy as you can be, and you will attract more to be happy about!

Apr 18, 2014
How to get unstuck
by: Anonymous

I am a positive person.. I have had some major things happen in my life & I don't dwell on them, I keep myself positive & see & appreciate the good in life. But, I am stuck in every area of my life, money, relationships & now health & after so much effort to keep myself up.. it brings me crashing down in frustration & despair

I do the meditation, visualisations, positive affirmations, watch mind movies twice a day & have had vision boards & have been doing them for a long time.

I feel like I am constantly trying to raise my vibrations, think good thoughts, watching how everyone else is prospering & I am exhausted, run down and now been sick because of lack of energy.

Now all I feel is sad trying to figure out what is wrong with me.

I can feel the blocks, they are in every area of my life... I have thought about them, prayed about them & cried a lot about them. I have raised myself out of them so many times & still nothing changes & now I think either it is just that God hates me or I just need to accept that this is it for me. No matter how much I fight for my dreams, I have to accept it is just not going to happen & it is a big waste of my energy & time hoping they will.

I started my own business two years ago, listed & did all of the SEO, intended & beieved for dollars & success & I get dribbles or a small sale here & there but am sitting on so much stock now that I just want to shut the business down.

I had a relationship that lasted a whole 4 months last year & I was miserable in it. He didn't want to commit, told me repeatedly & I hung around hoping it would change. We ended it as friends but never spoke again. The three relationships prior were exactly the same.

These are not the things I had dreamed about but still I get them.

Neither good nor bad seems to change & I throw my hands up. I don't know what else I can do.

Apr 19, 2014
Sometimes, giving up "trying" is the only way to go
by: Andrea, RLLoA moderator


I hear you. I'm so sorry that your experience is so challenging right now, that sucks. I'm so sorry!

There are a few things that come instantly to mind though, in terms of moving through it--and I do mean THROUGH it--because you have to acknowledge it, face it, and go through it to get to the other side. Ignoring it makes it worse, suppressing it makes it worse, trying to be positive in the face of a reality that is anything but, also makes it worse. And, it's exhausting, so now your poor body is worn out too.

My first recommendation is to stop. Stop the affirmations, stop the visualizations, stop the vision boards, stop the Mind Movies, stop trying to stay positive; put it ALL away, and take a break for a while.

You can see my page on how Vision Boards don't always work, for an illustration of my own personal experience trying all those same things, and how I finally had to just stop it all for my life to have some space (and to allow my dreams through peace.)

Secondly, I highly recommend The Work of Byron Katie, and her book "Loving What Is" -- it's a simple, but deep, process for making peace with the situations of your life AS THEY ARE right now. It sounds scary, because none of us want to make peace with, or accept, situations that suck, but there is immense freedom in doing so.

I once saw somebody come to a complete acceptance around having a brain tumor in one of Byron Katie's workshops. It was miraculous, but not, because that is how powerful the simple process is, when you really commit to doing it.

I'm sending you light, love, blessings, and best wishes for this phase of your journey. I suspect that as you start to work with the realities of life as they are right now, you will emerge with even more profound new possibilities than you ever could have imagined!

Love and light to you,

P.S. God doesn't hate you. Source Energy, that which you and I and all that is, is made of is the same Energy that God is, and it is impossible for pure energy to have any feelings at all about itself. I know what you mean though, in terms of feeling frustrated. Hang in there -- YOU ARE loved!

Apr 27, 2014
Repeating lives
by: Anonymous

I have been in a lesson test, lesson learned, lesson repeat pattern for years now. And relationships are the same thing, just different faces, same good times and same arguments. Move on. They come back. Same thing with the money relationship thing -- get money, spend money (mostly on others), lose money, become dependent on others for help to survive (mainly 'father'), am totally sad, swear it won't happen again, then "bam!" repeat. This is also with career goals and love mates get to a point, repeat of being partly love partly abused emotionally and me accepting it, then getting really angry repeatedly walking away. Now really lonely, hurt, tired of it all. I want the Repeat of Good ______, receiving and giving.

Apr 29, 2014
It's hard, but you CAN change patterns!
by: Andrea, RLLoA moderator

I'm so sorry, that's so tough, I'm really sorry that life is challenging right now. I can't possibly know how you feel, but I've been there too, so I know it's hard, I'm sorry!

This sounds like the kind of all-encompassing pattern for which some professional support would be really helpful, if you can afford to work with a licensed therapist or counselor. Was there any difficulty, abuse, or neglect in your life while you were growing up?

You don't have to answer that here, but if you can look inside your own heart and find that you didn't get the amounts of pure love and support that every child deserves while growing up, you owe it to yourself to work through that old trauma. And it **IS** trauma, even if it was unintentional.

And, if we (any of us) don't really heal those past hurts, they ALWAYS multiply and repeat themselves in patterns like you describe, because the Law of Attraction brings experiences that are relatively similar to what you've learned to expect.

That's an even bigger reason to seek professional assistance, or get into a qualified support group like CODA (Co-Dependents Anonymous), because, unfortunately, willpower is not enough to change these powerful repetitive cycles.

You could possibly benefit from working with a facilitator and doing "The Work" of Byron Katie processes, or "The Lefkoe Method", or some other energy modalities, but, it seems to me that just coaching, in and of itself, would not be curative for such deep patterns.

I'm sending you love and light as you find your way through this. You CAN do this, you ARE strong enough, and you are profoundly loved by Source Energy. You are precious, beautiful, creative, unique, resourceful, and magnificent... And, you are here for a reason. I'm sending you blessings and love for ease and grace in the process.

Jun 23, 2014
Blocked blessings
by: Anonymous

I raised my children to be giving - and they never asked otherwise. They seemed to have been born good and just did so much good in their lives. Even as toddlers they helped others in need. As such we seemed to attract resentment and hate. Two of my children were raped, and all 4 were bullied out of school. Their father mentally abused them, while physically and mentally abusing me. My daughter was chronically ill and it almost claimed her life - for 3 years I worked at keeping her alive, often having to resuscitate her. Friends, family and church turned on us. Even those we had helped in the past. My business failed no matter how hard I worked at helping others and making things right. My ministry was stolen - not shared or enhanced, but stolen. My charity was stolen and eventually destroyed, resulting in the death of our director. My son in law was attacked a number of times and eventually killed and my daughter lost her first child. Every day, no matter how hard I stay positive or work to attract the best in life, I watch every day as people crush it or walk away with our blessings. And if it looks as though things are on the verge of homelessness. I discovered all my years of study and self improvement/skills updates are for nothing, despite saving lives every day - I can no longer be registered in my field as I spoke out against some corruption in my field. Every day something else breaks - it's a pattern - all electrical items, cars, parts of the house are crumbling and we are to be out in one week with nowhere to go and no money to do it with. The attacks on my children have them doubting their faith for the first time in their lives. Emotionally I am not coping with what has happened to them, but more than that, why has God let this happen, and why is He not hearing our prayers - despite applying laws of attraction, deep down I know that they are not being heard. I feel like there is a thick barrier between us and our blessings and success - and happiness. I am no longer able to do good in this world even though I know it is heavy on my heart and what I was put here to do. Both the older girls were raped by people they had reached out to help and support. Even trying to help others fails, money is stolen or taken - or lost. Efforts result in closed doors. Or physical harm. Serious physical harm. It's at a point where I feel anyone close to me or depending on me is going to be attacked. It's not fear or cursing myself - it is just fact. Why?

Jun 25, 2014
Understanding tragedy is not desirable
by: Andrea, RLLoA moderator

I'm so sorry.

I cannot answer why.

Unfortunately though, focusing on the question of why something is happening, brings more of the very kind of situation that you want the answer to.

...Focusing on patience brings situations that are trying to your patience and attracts frustrating experiences which forces you to practice using your patience.

...Focusing on compassion attracts sad situations, heart-breaking experiences, and more and more opportunities to feel and use your compassion.

...Focusing on forgiveness and the promise of redemption can attract experiences which test your faith and provide the opportunity to live that value.

Because of the Law of Attraction, having the "answer" for some type of problem or question attracts opportunities to USE that knowledge or skill... Esther Hicks of Abraham-Hicks used to tell a story about learning how to use a coat-hanger like a slim-jim to unlock car doors from the outside when the keys had been locked inside. At first she thought it was really fun, because it was a new skill and she liked to be able to use that skill to help people. But, because she was focusing on it, she started attracting people stuck on the side of the road every day, everywhere she went, and it was becoming a real bother, particularly when she was in a hurry, and didn't have time to stop. When she asked Abraham about it, it was explained that she created/attracted people who needed help, because she was focused on being of service in that way, and the only way to change the pattern was to deactivate HER desire to use her skill.

That being said though, I don't know why bad things happen.

But I do know that it has NOTHING to do with how good a person is! Unfortunate experiences happen to good (and seemingly positive) people all the time.

Each person is an individual sovereign being, and there is NO way for any other human to fully comprehend the myriad of thoughts, beliefs, words, vibrations, intentions, expectations, and soul-level goals that comprise every life experience.

But, understanding it is not our job either. Not even for our children or ourselves. That's God's business.

The ONLY tool that I have ever seen give any relief on questions and life-challenges as agonizing and tragic as the the ones you describe is "The Work of Byron Katie" (www.TheWork.com). I know it's not much to offer in the face of what you've shared, but it can help. I would recommend working with a trained facilitator.

I'm so sorry that you and your family have had to experience so much tragedy in your lives. I'm sending you love, light, and prayers in the hope that it all turns around soon.

Dec 17, 2015
How can I free myself and move forward?
by: Stuck and so frustrated

I feel, and this is my best way to describe it....like I am wrapped in plastic wrap. Nothing comes in, nothing goes out. I feel powerless. I wonder if someone has performed a "freezer" spell on me.

I run a business built from scratch. It took off very quickly and has inspired several....similar....businesses. Now we are at a plateau. There are so many people doing what we do in our area and it feels like we are old news, even though we did this first and all these imitators literally used to be a part of my business.

I have worked the LOA actively for about 5 years. I've written my intentions and seen the very thing I wrote to come fruition. I know how this works and I believe in it. Lately, maybe the last 9-12 mths I have felt so stuck and like a hamster on a wheel. I can't move forward. I feel like I am sealed shut. Medicine doesn't work on me. Intentions aren't working. Remedies aren't working. I've tried candles and magik, that doesn't work. I feel just a little sick all the time. I am exhausted. I feel completely powerless. I've always had visions and a very powerful intuition, that's all been turned off.

I have gone to reiki treatments regularly for about a year and a half. I can't figure out what is blocking me and why I feel this way. How do I remove what has sealed me so tightly? I try to go outside and be grounded, I use stones and meditate almost every day. I pray and write and burn sage. Why am I stuck?

Also, my husband and I are partners in our business. If we have opposite feelings and frequencies about the same issue, what happens? If I am excited and feel good about something while he feels worried and anxious. Then what?

Thanks so much in advance for your time. This is truly wearing me out.

Dec 22, 2015
Wow, I feel your pain, I'm SO sorry!
by: Andrea, RLLoA moderator

Dear Stuck and Frustrated,

It's really hard to say what it is you are going through, except that to me, it feels like a call from your own heart to do something MUCH bigger and bolder out in the world.

What are YOUR personal interests, skills, and hobbies?

It feels to me like your heart wants to be useful to the world, or to the people around you in a whole new way....

Did you read the response in this comment thread from June 2014? I think that would apply to you as well. Please read it, and start to shift away from wondering what is keeping you stuck, and toward what might make your heart sing instead.

There IS something bigger and better for you, I'm SURE of it, or you wouldn't be in this place.

Love and blessings to you!

Jun 02, 2016
Stuck relationship, stuck life
by: Marfr


Eager to get a reply on this. I feel I have been 'in love' and hanging onto the same person for 10 years now. On off, but there all the same. We were recently going to get back together (after five years) but for reasons I don't understand, and because of a lot of vented surging anger from the past he changed his mind.

We haven't been getting on since, even though I have said I just want to be friends. Maybe it's because I am not being honest with myself about this.

Either way, I feel there is a hell of a lot of blocked energy from both him and me which is stopping me from moving on with my life--whether just as friends, or without him in my life. I haven't dated anyone else for two years.

How do I move on from this person who clearly does not appreciate me, but does not fully let me go at the same time? An aspect of our relationship is that it never feels like the 'right time' for us, but I know I sound naive, and after 10 years of up down and wondering if it is clear it will never happen. But this particular relationship and area in my life is stopping me from living in the now and moving on with my life, even if I move cities which I have done. Please help me remove this huge blocked energy and stuck relationship, and basically get a life!! I have so many other things to be appreciative for but still can't seem to move forward once and for all.

Thank you x

Jun 03, 2016
Wow, I hear you!
by: Andrea, RLLoA moderator


I haven't been in your exact situation, but in my own long-time journey of trying to have children and being (so far) unsuccessful, I do know what it feels like to be "stuck on pause!" So, I hear you, I really do, and I'm sorry it's such a bummer!

The good news is that you already have the awareness that you aren't being fully honest with yourself about what YOU want yet. You tell him that you just want to be friends, but every time he reels in the line a little bit, you are right there, seemingly willing to give it another go if he decides it's a yes. But, unfortunately, it's not. Guys aren't like that. Sadly.

I had to learn this the hard way by reading two books that changed my life:

He's Just Not That Into You by Greg Behrendt
Why Men Love Bitches by Sherry Argov

Those two books seriously changed my life, and helped me to NOT let the bad boys I would formerly fawn all over treat me like an orange shirt in the back of the closet anymore.

The third book I would STRONGLY recommend for you (after you read the two above) is:

How Quantum Physicists Build New Beliefs by Greg Kuhn

If you do the process he recommends in that book, thoroughly and to the letter, your energy will turn around in about a month, and can be completely transformed in two months. Try it and see. I changed a REALLY painful pattern in less than a month using his process, and I can't recommend it highly enough!

Good luck to you! Please let us know how you are doing!

Feb 06, 2017
I feel blocks
by: Anonymous

Hi there, I have been meditating for two years now. I started when I had the most stressful time in my life, and it worked for me. I am always positive and things are going good in my life except for a feeling of a negative block. Every time I have a chance to grow in my career, I feel that some kind of force is stopping me from proceeding and of course I see the opportunity is passing through without me taking any advantage of it. (I am talking about career wise.) I was always a good student, and focused, but the more I grow older I feel that I am letting go of the opportunities in front of me without doing anything. Even though I know deep down inside that if I take the chance it will fix all my career situation. I feel like I am taking one step forward and ten steps back... Could it be an external force, or is it only me? Thank you

Feb 06, 2017
Hmmm, there could be a few things going on
by: Andrea, RLLoA moderator


The last thing you ask is: "Could it be an external force, or is it just me?" but everything is always FOR you, so either way, it's you.

But that isn't bad.

Sometimes when you are blocked from moving forward it is because you are frightened and don't want to leave your comfort zone, sometimes it is because you have unfinished business where you are (something more to learn there,) and sometimes it is because there will be something even better for you if you wait.

The way to tell which is which is by how you feel about your career prospects when you think about branching out or taking new opportunities.

Do you feel excited and optimistic about how good you'll be at it and how fun it will be?

Or do you feel worried and discouraged, like it won't work, or you won't be any good at it?

If the latter, I want to STRONGLY recommend that you read and do the exercises from the same book I mentioned a few comments ago:

How Quantum Physicists Build New Beliefs by Greg Kuhn

The basic premise is to slowly, slowly, slowly walk yourself up the emotional ladder, step by step (NO more than one emotional step up per day, even if you get on a roll!) until you are genuinely believing that everything is working out in your favor and that you are on the right track.

That is the truth, this is ALL meant to be a gift to you, and serving your highest good, it's just a matter of you seeing it.

Good luck and blessings to you!

Apr 30, 2017
by: Anonymous

Thank u

May 03, 2017
Nothing works
by: Peter

I'm the most upbeat, positive person you will ever meet. I live my life with zest, I'm always smiling and laughing and making others laugh. I"m very smart and extremely hard-working. But for some reason, I feel like the universe is keeping me from making money. I've worked in corporate America, I've started my own businesses, I've applied for part time jobs, I've tried it all. And with all of my money making ventures, it NEVER works out. No matter how positive I am or how hard I work. Whenever there is an opportunity for me to make a little extra money, more than I normally make, it always falls thru. I feel like the universe is keeping me at the income level I've been at for the past 30 years!! No matter how hard I try and no matter how positive I am and no matter how nice and kind-hearted I am NOTHING seems to work!!!!!! I cannot break out of this. I don't know what the problem is or how to overcome it.

Oct 18, 2017
Hi Peter, a suggestion (if you get this?)
by: Andrea, RLLoA moderator

Hi Peter,

I don't know why I didn't know your comment was here until just now, so I'm only just replying almost 6 months later, so, if you get this, here is what I would suggest:

Get and read the book "How Quantum Physicists Build New Beliefs" by Greg Kuhn, and do the methodology in it precisely, and thoroughly, as he describes. This will change your vibration about receiving (and keeping) money.

The problem is that no matter how positive you are, or even how much logic and belief and enthusiasm you have around the idea of money in your life, there are some old patterns of thought that are way deep inside that are subconsciously sabotaging what's really possible for you. You need to uncover, and SLOWLY change those old assumptions and expectations before your reality can change.

I have used Greg Kuhn's process myself, and it really works. Good luck!

Nov 07, 2017
by: Anonymous

I looked up this article because I feel extremely stuck in my life's path. For the last 10 years, all I experience is loss and grief. The worst loss was of my 6 year old son to cancer in Feb 2016.

I now cannot move forward. I am trying to find a job so that I can use my brain, keep busy and contribute to both society and my family income and I keep getting rejected. I wrote a book about my son's life and I get so much praise yet no one will publish it.

Everything is hard. I am desperately unhappy and hopeless. Your article asks us to look at what we are hiding. I hide my pain on a daily basis. So my energy is going towards hiding my pain therefore I cannot attract abundance? How do I accept where I am at and still maintain a forward momentum? I will have this grief forever and I want to live along side of it.

Thank you for your guidance.

Nov 10, 2017
Healing Grief
by: Andrea, RLLoA moderator

Oh my goodness, bless your heart, I'm so sorry to hear of your son's passing. I cannot even imagine the pain you must be continually experiencing after such a tragic loss. I'm so sorry!

And, at the same time, hiding your grief and pain is not the answer either. For one, it just doesn't work. And for two, it magnifies itself and colors everything else in your life the more you try to suppress it.

For such severe trauma as having lost a child, I would recommend individual therapy with a therapist certified (and approved) in EMDR. You can find a therapist in your area at: Find an EMDR Therapist at www.emdria.org

Do you participate in any kind of grief support group? It is so important to connect with others and not try to keep it all in.

There are also three books which MAY be helpful:

Radical Forgiveness by Colin Tipping
How Quantum Physicists Build New Beliefs by Greg Kuhn
It Didn't Start With You by Mark Wolynn

But, even these will be of limited help if you haven't fully processed your grief, and not in place of getting quality, professional, in-person support.

I'm so sorry for your loss, but want you to know how much love there is for you in the world still, and that you have important gifts to share. Blessings, love, and huge hugs to you!

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