How to overcome depression with Law of Attraction?
Question: I so appreciate your thorough and thoughtful responses to my questions. Although sometimes painful to hear, I am sure there is much truth to what you say. If I could at least see a glimpse of something better in the future I would not be so depressed but I don't see anything else.
I am depressed and in some ways feel hopeless about a lot of things. I know this mindset will only create more hopelessness which only feeds on itself. I try to think "better" thoughts or feel gratitude but sometimes even that is elusive, even though I have my family, two precious children, and many things to be grateful for. The LOA is very challenging when you are in a funk and terrified of attracting more negative stuff, but you can't seem to help it. I am so ready for something good to happen. I have far too much time on my hands which leads me deeper in to the dark valley of depression. While there, I tend to become paralyzed and cannot seem to become motivated at all. Hobbies, volunteer work, outside activities, exercise, all become hurdles that appear too daunting to cross.
I just find myself in deep despair and very discouraged which I know will only breed more of the same.... What a defeating cycle to be in. I am even on antidepressants right now and it shows how well they are doing, doesn't it? Don't worry, I am not at the end of my rope and would never do anything stupid, I couldn't do that to those I love. I just feel very discontent, anxious and blue and hope for a ray of sunshine somewhere to pull me out of this. If only, I could get back on track. Thank you for spending so much time on my questions and concerns. I feel you absolutely understand, know what you are talking about and believe in the power of the Law of Attraction. You are a wealth of knowledge and strength.
Real Life LoA Answer: I am so, so, so, so, so sorry you are going through such a difficult time, I really am, I know it's hard. But, depression is nothing to fool around with, it is quite, quite serious. Depression can have very dire consequences, as there is nothing that feels worse, or hurts the soul more than the powerless feeling of depression and the internal shame that often accompanies it. I assume, since you mention being on anti-depressants, that you are under a doctor's care? Please continue to allow your doctor to support and assist you -- it is VERY important.
One of the challenges of the Law of Attraction is that it magnifies whatever you are thinking, feeling, doing, saying, or being, so when you are depressed, you attract more to feel depressed about. But it is OK -- the good news is that at the heart level, at the soul level, you are not attracting more negative things just because you are depressed at the mental level.
It is slowing down the manifestation of the positive things, but your soul is never working against you, it is merely waiting patiently for you to feel better and catch up to where the vibrational version of you, your vibrational escrow, your vortex, the REAL you already is energetically!
So don't worry, you will be OK, there is a way out and up, and it's on the way. You will be alright. Feeling depressed is normal for all of us from time to time, and you will rise from it -- rising is your true nature! Abraham-Hicks often says that you can hold a cork deep under water, but when you let go it will naturally float to the top. That is your true nature as well, you will naturally rise up in time, and that's OK!
In the meantime, here are five things that you can do to help overcome depression, starting right away, from exactly where you are:
- Let yourself off the hook for feeling depressed. It's OK, really, it is! It will pass, and you do not have to try force it. You don't have to try to think more positive thoughts, or try to convince yourself to feel better. You are where you are; physically, mentally, emotionally, and that is perfectly alright. Let yourself be there, and remind yourself that it is OK. Nothing bad is going to happen to you if you allow yourself to rest right where you are. Let it be OK that you feel the way you do, and don't try too hard change it (other than continuing to follow your doctor's advice, and honoring your emotions as they come up) and it will lift eventually.
Of course, if you already see a therapist to overcome depression, continue to do so, but otherwise, don't try too hard to make your emotions pass before they are ready. That's not to say you want to wallow in it, or do absolutely nothing at all, just don't try to force your feelings to change, and don't be too hard on yourself for it. Set an intention to feel better, and look for things to feel better about, but, be gentle with yourself while you're at it!
- Try an experiment for 2 weeks/1 month during which you do not eat any sweets, or sweetened foods/drinks, especially not high fructose corn syrup or any type of artificial sweeteners.
I'm not a doctor, so this is not to be construed as medical advice, but I often get somewhat depressed myself, and this is the first thing I do when I notice I am feeling really blue: I stop eating ALL sweet things; desserts, cereals, sweet drinks, soda, candy, juice, etc., even sugary yogurt. I find that a little tiny bit of real organic sugar is not so bad, but the concentrated or artificial sweeteners are the worst! I am not sure why this affects me so severely, but I do know that when I have been eating a lot of sweets (even if they are the no-calorie variety,) I start to get more and more down. Then, when I stop the sweets, I am feeling MUCH, MUCH, MUCH better after a week or so. The difference is remarkable. Truly! ...And, it cannot hurt anyone to not eat sweets, so it's worth a try -- you might be amazed after only that one change!
- Take a vacation from all media -- especially TV, talk radio, the news, newspapers, and social media like Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, etc. Do it for at least a week, preferably two. The reason it helps is simple: News, talk radio, & TV all depend on ratings, and ratings are highest when people are scared, outraged, angry, negative, and fearful. So those forms of media, and many of the ads within them, are designed to frighten, upset, and make you feel bad about yourself. Watching or listening to it is not a good way to start to feel better, but taking a media vacation is!
I also suggest avoiding social media because many people post when they are angry, are doing something fabulous, or are adding to a "media image." In each case, it is information that plain old real life cannot compare to, so most readers will feel "less than" by seeing it. Only go to websites that are truly uplifting, and try to avoid all sources of "current events" for a while -- if something big happens, believe me, someone will tell you.
- Begin a practice of meditation. Even if you can only start with 3 minutes a day, that's ok -- just start somewhere. The important part is that you do it every day. Once you get into a habit of 3-5 minutes every day, then slowly work your way up to 10+ minutes a day. Unless you are an advanced meditator, I recommend a maximum of 15 minutes a day meditating, so it is not a difficult commitment.
My favorite methods for meditating are to start a timer for the number of minutes you want to meditate, and then:
- Stare at a flickering candle flame
- Concentrate on a steady sound, like the refrigerator fan, or the air conditioner
- Focus on your breath, as it moves in and out of your lungs
- Repeat a simple mantra, like "I breathe in Love, and I breathe out Peace" in time to your breath
- Imagine your heart is a fireplace bellows, expanding and contracting, getting bigger and bigger, in time with your breath (this one sounds silly, but it is my personal favorite!)
- Listen to a guided meditation (The "Getting Into the Vortex" meditations by Abraham-Hicks are excellent)
Allow your thoughts to float through and keep going. Thank them for coming and tell them to move on, that you will attend to them later, and just let your mind quiet. It's alright if it doesn't work, just do the best you can for the prescribed amount of time that day, and let that be perfect as it is. Start again the next day, and the next (it is called a practice for a reason.)
- Do some form of light exercise or movement every day. Even if it is only for 10 minutes each day -- walking, dancing, stretching, relaxation yoga, swimming, knee lifts, etc. Do something light and easy, for only 10 minutes, so that you are moving your body a little bit every day. Moving your body moves your emotions and changes your state.
Again, once you get into a good, consistent habit, then work your way up to 30 minutes a day. It's a good idea to consult the doctor you are working with, to make sure your fitness level will support increased physical activity, but getting the body in the habit of moving, in a gentle way at first, will bring immense benefits.
At first, these five steps will challenge your courage. But that is good, you must challenge your courage if you are to gain your own self-respect back. You CAN do this, you can overcome depression, with help and support, and your own resolve to do so.
The hardest trick in the book is wanting to see a glimpse of a desired future so that you will be able to be happy in expecting it, but it doesn't work that way. Seeing is not believing. Believing is seeing, at least as far as the Law of Attraction is concerned.
Get into action -- even tiny actions can make a big difference -- get out there and get moving. Start doing these things for just 2 weeks and see what happens, if you feel better, then keep going. You CAN do this; I believe in YOU!