Using the Law of Attraction for my soulmate and dream marriage

Question: How can I apply the Law of Attraction to my dream marriage; for getting my soul mate husband with all the qualities I wish he has, like a loving nature, financial stability, commitment & love?


Also, after marriage I wish to settle in prosperous country, so how do I create that in my thoughts? Thank you.



Real Life LoA Answer: Thank you for writing. You ask a big question, but let me attempt to answer it in a way that is useful to you right away, so you can get started on the process!

From the Law of Attraction perspective, attracting a dream marriage or soul mate is actually a process of aligning with the real truth of who YOU really are. What is required is for YOU to fall in love with who YOU really are, as you are now, and to be so happy with who you are, that the right partner for you is naturally and magnetically pulled toward you. This happens because your energy and his energy are both aligned toward the same things.

He is probably looking for someone who is happy, confident, kind, interested in life, nurturing, funny, bright, etc., and the more time you spend exuding those qualities for yourself (even before you meet him) the faster he can FEEL his way toward you and find you! The more YOU are aware of, and are focusing on YOUR own best qualities, the faster the Universe can bring you together with all of the best people to travel on the road of your dreams with you.

Source Energy/God/The Universe already knows what your dreams are and what your heart most wants. Your dreams and desires are in your heart because they are the very dreams that God/Source Energy (your own Higher Self) has FOR you! You are already on the perfect path toward your dreams, you cannot not be - the only thing missing sometimes is your own belief that it IS really happening!

Source Energy has only 3 possible answers to ANY request:

1) Yes! Here it is, now.
2) Yes, but not right this minute, not just yet.
3) Yes, but I have something even better in mind for you!

So, you are already attracting the soul mate of your dreams as well as the creative ideas and inspiration for how you can settle wherever you want to. Your own action is the only thing that is missing...

Start doing anything you can to immerse yourself in your dreams becoming your reality. Read about them, research them, imagine yourself already living that reality, spend an hour or two writing down the details of a typical day (of your desired reality) AS IF it were already true now, etc. Put yourself there in your mind, and feel how good it feels. Then, start to look for ways that YOU could make it happen - don't wait for your man to do it for you, it may be that your man is already waiting for you in your new homeland?

In the meantime start to create a list of qualities that you really like and appreciate about the men you know - not just the ones who could be relationship material, but any man you know. (It does not matter if you would never be in a relationship with that man, he is only serving as an inspiration for this exercise - it is not about the specific person, just about examples of qualities that you admire.)

Beginning with a man that you think of most romantically, write down a list of qualities that you most admire about him, and WHY you like/appreciate that quality so much. Then, add to the list using the best qualities of some of the other men you know as inspiration. For example:

1) He is handsome and attractive to me
Why do I like that: Because I enjoy feeling attracted to my man, I like to smile when I see him, I love to feel beautiful when he looks at me, I enjoy feeling my heart flutter a little when he walks in the room

2) He is kind and considerate
Why do I like that: I appreciate that he is gentle with others, it makes me feel special when he thinks of me and does nice things for me, I am proud of him when he treats others with respect, I feel supported and cared for when he thinks about my feelings

3) He is really funny, I like his sense of humor
Why do I like that: I love to laugh, I feel happy, healthy, and joyful when I am laughing with my man. I think a good sense of humor is a mark of intelligence, and I love that he is so smart, but mostly, I really love to laugh...

4) He has a really good job that he enjoys
Why do I like that: I like to have a great deal of private time to myself, I am glad that he is away at work for much of the day, so I can do my own thing. I like to have time to spend with my own friends, and I can because he is working so often.

Or something like this. Make your own list, using your own examples and as much detail as you can. Get into the habit of noticing qualities you like about ANY man you see, and add those new qualities to the list of what you appreciate, and why.

When you do this exercise, you will be creating an overall picture, a composite of the kind of man that your heart TRULY dreams about, the type of man that your Inner Being most wants to attract into your life. When you think about the qualities you admire, and why you enjoy those qualities, you will never feel sad, because you are not thinking about one specific person. You are thinking about what you love, and why, from your own heart's perspective, and that will always feel nice.

Then, get yourself out into life as much as possible. Go to social events, take classes, attend support groups or book clubs, or anything that kinds your mind active and expanding - that is how to attract the ideas which will lead you to the 'stepping stones' toward your dreams. Do anything you can do to improve yourself and become the version of you that YOU most want to be.

The purpose of life is to feel the joy of creating your dreams for yourself. You are attracting harmonious components and partners along the way, but almost all of it will emerge due to your own inspired action first!

Blessings to you along the journey!

Andrea

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Dec 02, 2013
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marry with my boyfriend
by: Khushbu

Hello, i m khushbu and i love my boyfriend alot and he also loves me but his family have been done his engaged to another girl.so now he is not taking me serious but i want to marry with him so how law of attraction i can use?

Dec 23, 2013
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hi
by: Anonymous

Hi dear..i think u shuld leave him ..as he z nt valuing u nw..u wl.hv to accept ds fact that he is nt ur nw..he is happy wd hs fiance so y shuld u wait for him..trust me he dont love u..so.pls accept it n.move on ....ull get best m sure..tc.

Jan 04, 2015
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for perfect marriage
by: Ally

Hi,
I and my boyfriend belong to different relegions and our family have now agreed for our marriage. We both had earlier decided that we would get married in both relegion styles. Now his family is going through financial crunch. And because of it he wants to keep everything simple in da marriage. Soon parents would meet to discuss the details. However we stil hav more 10 to 11 months for marriage. How can i use the law of attraction to overcome his financial crunch and stress. I support him and understand. But i wish to have marriage in both style even if simple i am happy. But both familys happy and them financialy secure is what i wish law of attraction to help. Please guide me

Jan 30, 2015
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See it happening as you desire it to be, and keep communicating
by: Andrea, RLLoA moderator

Hi Ally,

The best role you can play is to imagine everyone involved as you would like them to be -- happy, secure, creative, resourceful, connected to the Universal Energy, and thriving.

Imagine the future as you would like it to be, and don't keep focusing on the "reality" of what is happening now (especially not the negative parts of it.) Don't waste your creative mental energy, words, or actions reinforcing what is currently wrong.

Instead, keep envisioning and communicating with your fiance about what you do want, that it can be simple, reinforcing the love you share, and taking action toward making what you DO want to happen, happen.

Love and blessings for you and your marriage!

Mar 15, 2015
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Marriage Hurdles
by: Sammy

All my friends and cousins have had a love marriage. The wireless couple is also very attractive. I am good looking and financially normal. I wish to get married to an attractive man with a good personality. But no matter what I do I keep getting rejected or get hurdles in my marriage.

Mar 16, 2015
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Examine your OWN hurdles
by: Andrea, RLLoA moderator

Hello, I very much feel for you, in having hurdles present themselves in opposition to your wishes, but in terms of the Law of Attraction, it only means one thing:

That there are hurdles within your OWN thinking, and competing intentions within your heart and mind (and vibration) that are preventing you from being a clear channel, and which prevent your desires from manifesting easily.

It may sound counter-logical, but create a written list for yourself about all things that could possibly be BAD or negative for you if you were to marry.

...Everything that would be inconvenient, things you may have to do that you do not want to, things you'd have to change about your life, if you'd have to live in a different place, and anything that could POSSIBLY be uncomfortable or distressing.

Once you have that list, you will have a clear idea about what, within YOU, is competing with the dream. And then you can examine each item and decide what you DO want your own truth to be, with regard to that objection.

You create your OWN vibration, so you DO have the power to overcome this. Good luck and blessings to you!

Jul 09, 2015
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Marriage obstacles
by: Nikki

Me and my boy love each other so much, he is handsome, tall, rich but just because of the fact that we belong to different caste my parents are not accepting this relationship. I tried hard to convince them but got zero response. Please suggest me how I can use law of attraction to get married with my love. I want to marry him within 1 or 2 months as we both are very late already. Please help me dear.
Thanks

Regards

Jul 09, 2015
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Things you can do
by: Andrea, RLLoA moderator

Hi Nikki,

I hear you, I really hear what you are saying, and while I do not have a personal understanding of the caste system, I do understand wanting your parents approval. The real challenge is that desiring your parents approval is a competing intention within YOU -- the Universe and Law of Attraction are merely demonstrating to you that you have competing beliefs:

I want to marry my love
I cannot marry my love (without my parents blessing)

You are effectively saying to the Universe: I DO want to marry my love and I DO NOT want to marry my love at the same time. ...The Universe has no judgement about WHY you are holding both beliefs (because your parent's don't currently approve), it is only responding to the fact that you have both beliefs going on at the same time.

But YOU are the only one who can live YOUR life, and if you want to be happy, and secure in your own decisions and life choices, AND if your parents want YOU to be happy and secure in YOUR life choices, then you must follow your own heart, even if that disappoints other people (your parents). That may, or may not be a choice you are willing to make, but it IS your choice to make.

If you are having trouble separating the two beliefs from each other, which is hard, I know, I recommend The Work of Byron Katie. It is available for free on her website: http://thework.com/do-work

It is a fantastic way to release yourself from beliefs that are causing you stress AND that may not even be true (such as 'my parents will never forgive me if I marry my love without their approval') so they are no longer competing intentions messing up what you are attracting with the Law of Attraction into your life.

After going through the Byron Katie process, you will get to explore 'turnarounds' such as:
  • I need my parent's approval

  • I do NOT need my parent's approval

  • I need my own approval

  • My parents need my approval, or maybe, my parents need to know that I have my own approval

or,
  • My parents WILL forgive me if I marry my love without their approval

  • My parents will never forgive me if I don't marry my love without their approval

  • I will never forgive my parents if I don't marry my love without their approval

  • I will never forgive me if I don't marry my love (even without their approval)

These are just examples, for you to explore, and journal on. But the Byron Katie work is the BEST way I know of to clear competing beliefs that you are holding on to. Then the Law of Attraction is free to bring you exactly what you really want, because you are no longer sending mixed messages in your vibration!

Blessings and love to you Nikki! ...Please send us a wedding picture!

Jul 09, 2015
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Thank you
by: Nikki

Now I know what should I do.... My preference is my marriage with my love and I'll do that w/o wasting any time.

Thank you so much hun for getting me out of this muddiness. Yes, I sure will send my wedding pics!

Loads of love & Stay blessed

Oct 09, 2015
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When will we get married?
by: Min

I have been in a happy committed relationship with my boyfriend for almost 8 years, during our university and career lives. For the last 3 years, after I found out about the Law of Attraction through "the Secret", I have been imagining getting married to him.

However, in order to get married, he needed to tell his parents about me and because I am from a different religion, he told me they would be against an inter-faith marriage. So him having his talk with his parents kept getting postponed. Initially he also wasn't ready to get married as he wanted to ensure he is financially stable before we take the next step. I too started working and getting financially stable.

During the 3 years, his parents did find out about me and he did tell them that he loves me and wants to be with me but they were very upset, unhappy and asked him to stop seeing me as I am from a different religion. They did not want to listen to his explanations. I was hurt and felt that his parents should atleast listen to what he was saying even if they did not want to agree or accept it. Our religious differences are not an issue for us and we have the same concept about God and love. He left the matter as it is with his parents. We decided that we would follow our hearts and continue our relationship and hope that in time his parents would grow to accept me into his family.

This year, we decided to get married by the year end as we both are at a stage in our life where we want to settle down. However, unexpectedly his father had to undergo a heart by-pass late July and currently is recovering. I have been asking him when he will be talking to his parents and informing them about our plans but until now he is unable to give me a clear answer. He says it would be too cruel to tell his parents at this point of time.

I am unsure if I will be able to get married to him by December and keep having the insecurity that he won't talk to his parents in time for the marriage to take place. Throughout the 8 years relationship, my parents know, accept and love him and are worried as to when we both will finally tie the knot. They want me to get married and are ready to support us to perform the marriage ceremony.

I find it difficult to give them the answers and reassurance when he himself isn't able to give me any. He knows clearly that the ball is in his court and that unless he speaks to his parents we can't proceed. I really need your advice as to how I can use the law of attraction to turn around this situation. We both want to be married as soon as possible. Am i to let go of this belief that the marriage should take place by December and be open to it taking place next year? Is it futile to hope that his parents will agree and give us their blessings before marriage? How can i support my boyfriend when I feel frustrated that he is keeping me waiting?

Feb 17, 2016
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Attracting my soul mate
by: Anonymous

Hi. I am divorced but that does not stop me from going for what I want in life. I am positive, fun loving, caring, smart, and charming. I am trying to date and attract the right one. Can you please share some of your steps for how I can positively attract what I want and deserve and what's best for me. I am confused skeptical and nervous since the whole dating process of arranging marriage is new to me.
I want to attract what's right for me :)

Feb 22, 2016
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Have as much fun as you can LIVING your life!
by: Andrea, RLLoA moderator

The #1 best strategy for dating and finding the right match for you is to be having fun, as much fun as you can, really living your life.

Go to clubs, and gatherings of people who have the same interests as you, socialize, be with friends, organize and participate in dinner parties and shared meals, join a sports league, take arts, music, or language classes, travel -- start DOING all the things you would want to be doing with your partner, just without waiting for them to do it first.

Then, when you do meet someone interesting, look for all the qualities you most admire and appreciate about that person, and keep yourself focused on the positive aspects. As you do, each successive person you meet will likely have many of the same positive qualities, but with the addition of a few more.

You cannot get it wrong! Your ideal partner is looking for YOU too, it's just that sometimes it takes time for the paths to cross.

Best of luck and keep having fun practicing!

Apr 20, 2016
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Please help me
by: Anonymous

Hi, I have got one marriage proposal & I liked that boy. He is having all the qualities that I wished for, I am very ready to marry him, but we still haven't met yet, and we didn't get any response from their family. How can I work with the Law of Attraction to be his life partner. Please help me.

Apr 20, 2016
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The Universe is working in YOUR favor!
by: Andrea, RLLoA moderator

Hello, I'm so glad to hear that you met someone you like very much, that's great!

But, while you are waiting for a response from his family, PLEASE know that the Universe is trying to work it out in YOUR favor -- to do what is for your highest good. If it turns out that this boy is not the one you will marry, it is because there is someone else even better for you to meet still.

Keep focusing on all the qualities you love and admire about this boy AND, at the same time, allow yourself to imagine what might be even more joyful for YOU, and know that either way, it works out magnificently for YOU!

Love to you!

May 12, 2016
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Looking for the right partner
by: Anonymous

I am 30 year old woman who is still unmarried. I do not want to go for the typical arranged marriage. I want to find someone I know, or who is my friend. There is one friend who could be a good choice.
How do I use the Law of Attraction for achieving the relationship with him?

Jun 09, 2016
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Early marriage
by: Anonymous

Hi,
I am a single woman. I have crossed 30 years of age. Despite being tall, beautiful, and slim, I have not yet been able to find the right partner for me. I have met 20-25 guys so far, but nothing happened. Even I am not getting enough proposals now. Please tell me what to do. I want to get married as soon as possible. How can Law of Attraction help benefit me? Please let me know... Waiting for your reply. :)
Regards

Jun 10, 2016
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Adice for EVERYONE reading this thread
by: Andrea, RLLoA moderator

For both of the beautiful young women who have posted comments most recently, and EVERYONE reading this:

PURCHASE this book and DO the daily journaling exercise the author describes:


How Quantum Physicists Build New Beliefs by Greg Kuhn


If you do the process he recommends in that book, thoroughly and to the letter, your energy (and what you attract) will turn around in about a month, and can be completely transformed in two months!

Truly.

There is something in YOUR belief structure or energy vibration that doesn't believe you can achieve what you think you want. If that weren't the case, you'd already have it.

So, read the book, and DO the exercise. Try it and see. I changed a REALLY painful pattern in less than 3 months using his process, and I can't recommend it highly enough!

Best of luck and love to you!

Jul 29, 2016
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Love marriage
by: Sammy

Hey. How do I attract my best soul mate. I have had 2 broken engagements with the guys I really likes. Now I'm 27 years old and I don't get any good ones or the ones that make me happy and excited. How do I attract love and happiness and abundance when my reality is quite the opposite. I want a young good looking and a cool natured guy from a good well off family but I can't seem to attract any since my engagements broke. How do I attract my guy and be excited to spend the rest of my life with him. How much time will it take?

Jul 29, 2016
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Read this whole thread of comments and BUILD belief
by: Andrea, RLLoA moderator

Hi Sammy,

Did you read the comment immediately previous to yours in this thread?

I would recommend you follow that same advice, in order to slowly build up your belief around attracting and being worthy of the love relationship you desire.

You are already perfectly worthy and deserving of the most amazing loving marriage you can possibly dream of, BUT, you do not believe that yourself right now.

You have to start where you are, and purge out all the real feelings of despair you have. Then, slowly, day by day, write about your feelings as you climb up the emotional scale, from the bottom to the top. Bit by bit.

Blessings on your journey, Sammy, I believe you will find your extraordinary love!

Sep 18, 2016
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Get my Ex Back?
by: Raf

Can I attract my ex back after 3 years of a broken engagement. Can we have another go at it and this time a successful one? I still miss him. And I don't feel for anyone the way I feel for him.

Sep 25, 2016
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Maybe....
by: Andrea, RLLoA moderator

Maybe your ex will come back into your life, and maybe not. The process is exactly the same as if you were to attract someone new, someone EVEN BETTER for YOU than your ex was (which is probably why your ex isn't already back in your life anyway!)
  • Fill your schedule with activities and people you enjoy.
  • Focus as much of your time as possible on mastery of your own talents and skills.
  • Be as "happy and busy", "happy and busy", "happy and busy" as often as you can.

Then, your own vibration will naturally being pulling whomever is best for your heart, and your inner most intentions into your life.

Good luck!

Oct 14, 2016
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Ex fiance to come back after 4 years
by: Anonymous

How can I attract my ex back after 4 years of broken a relationship. He apparently has moved on. I'm still in love with him. I try moving on but I never forget him.

Nov 20, 2016
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Your own Inner Being is trying to lead you to someone better!
by: Andrea, RLLoA moderator

The way your life is right now is the way it is supposed to be, because your own soul/Inner Being/Habits of thinking is what got you here. And going back to the past is almost NEVER the path to your happiness.

If you could truly believe that things are ALWAYS working out for you -- that something even better than getting back together with you ex -- was in the process of happening for you, what would you do?

Do that.

Also, please read these similar questions, and the answers that go with them:

Attracting a specific lover back when I know he loves me.

Trying to use the Law of Attraction to get back together with the love of my life

Love, blessings, and good luck to you!

Nov 22, 2016
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Sammy
by: Anonymous

I have been able to attract the kind of people I want to marry into using your advice. But somehow they don't say yes to me. Each and every rejection from the people I like is lowering my hope of my ability to marry the kind of family I want. They always seem to be non-interested and looking at my shortcomings

Nov 22, 2016
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Outer Experience is a reflection of Inner Reality
by: Andrea, RLLoA moderator

Hi Sammy,

I suspect you are meeting people who are reflecting back to you the kind of feelings, thoughts, and inner self-talk you have about yourself. Could that be accurate?

Do you feel you are interesting?
Do you truly believe that you are exciting, confident, and fun to be around?
Do you make the effort to focus your attention on all the wonderful qualities about yourself?
Is your time filled with activities you enjoy and feel enthusiastic about doing?

If not, start doing all these things.

If YOU love you, and YOU love your life, the people around you will start to reflect that back to you. Your own confidence and spirit of loving yourself first is the Law of Attraction in action, and it's highly contagious! (In a good way!)

Blessings of love and good luck to you,
Andrea

Dec 08, 2016
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How do I love myself again? Heart broken
by: Anonymous

I need a mate I feel attracted to and love, and to have a hot physical relationship. Physical intimacy is important to me in marriage. How do I get a partner who I am mentality, emotionally and physically attracted to?

Dec 12, 2016
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I like someone, but...
by: Anonymous

There is a guy I like in the family friend's circle. Somehow the only hurdle between me and him is his mom. We have sent our proposal to them 3 times. She asked for her older son and I refused and we proposed for the younger son. She cut off communication for a year, but is now back in contact with us. But she is not responding to our proposal. What do I do? I am heart broken. I want to marry the guy I like. I'm not happy otherwise.

Jan 03, 2017
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Hurdles in good marriage proposal
by: Anonymous

I'm being refused by good ones. Is it not in my destiny or am I less?

Jan 17, 2017
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What if it is a GIFT?
by: Andrea, RLLoA moderator

There have been a number of comments lately that I would like to address all at once here:
  • What if it is a GIFT that it is not working out the way you want it to yet?

  • What if how it is happening right now is actually PERFECT, and is leading you to something even better?

  • What if your own higher-self or inner-intelligence is creating this situation FOR YOUR BENEFIT and so you heal something from your past that you need to heal before you can live the magnificent life you really want?

  • If this situation was really The Universe's greatest GIFT to you, what are 5 possible benefits you are getting from it?

Some books in this subject area:

Radical Forgiveness by Colin Tipping

The Obstacle Is the Way by Ryan Holliday

Good luck to you all for a most magnificent relationship, proposal, marriage, and life!

Jan 29, 2017
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For marriage
by: Shivani

Hi.. I was engeged in 2015. But before 20 days of marriage, our relation got break due to some misunderstandings.i love him so much.. Plz help me.. I want to get him back..how i can get back my love with low of attraction?

Feb 04, 2017
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I like soneone
by: Anonymous

There is a guy I like. I want to marry him. But there are hurdle from his mother. I have used law of attraction for studies and job and pruposals. But marriage is not happening. I want him only! What do I do

Mar 20, 2017
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Law of Attraction and Love
by: Andrea, RLLoA moderator

The best way to use the Law of Attraction in matters of love is to try to FORCE your mind to consider all the possible ways that the way it is actually working out right now might be even closer to what you really, really, really want in the bigger picture.

How could someone other than that person you love maybe be even better than the current person?

What if spending time apart is exactly what one of you needs to be able to grow into the person who is capable of the kind of marriage you truly want to have?

I'm not saying that is what will happen, but just by considering other possibilities that are to your benefit, releases the Universe from the vice grip of your mind's idea about what you want, and allows the space to give you your real heart's desires.

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